When I was a teenager, I thought my mom was so boring because she had the same exact thing for breakfast every day. I saw people who did things on routines and thought of them as slaves, zombies walking among us.
If the teenaged INFP version of me could see what I’m turning into, he’d roll his eyes. I’m so “boring!” Routine and process thrive in my life. I’m married, have a child and have started running. I eat nearly the same thing for breakfast and lunch everyday. How far a fall from my rockstar dreams!
But here’s the thing. I’m happier than I’ve ever been. Probably about a thousand times happier than he (the teenaged me) was.
He was miserable, did whatever he wanted, generally disliked people, drank, smoked pot, hated god, planned to be a rockstar and never did anything to achieve that goal.
I’ve probably lost more battles than I’ve won against myself. But some of the big ones – quitting drinking and losing 20 pounds would not be possible without routine.
It’s funny, because as much as I hate working, I’m learning to appreciate the structure it gives me and my day. If I have a particularly unhealthy weekend, I know that going back to work will get me back on track.
I’ve lived a very unhealthy lifestyle. I’ve done all sorts of stuff while working – I’ve drank, I’ve eaten heavy meals, I’ve had way too much caffeine, I’ve come to work completely hung over.
What those activities lead to is being tired, moody and unable to concentrate. That means I can’t do my job, I get in trouble, look like an idiot and feel like a failure.
So I introduced predictable meals for breakfast and lunch. I know that what I put in my body is healthy each day and I feel like I can do my job because I’m not constantly suffering a sugar, carb or caffeine crash
Every morning on my way to work, I read an instruction manual that I made for myself. It reminds me of the importance of staying away from alcohol, sugar and resisting temptation to slack off at work. It ends with a prayer. Sometimes I skim it, but on the days I read the whole thing, I’m definitely more productive! Someday I may post it so that I hopefully inspire you to do the same.
Here’s a homework assignment. Think about the routines in your life. Leave a comment and tell me what the routine is and how it keeps you on track or how it brings good things to your life. I know, my INFP friends, this probably sounds boring, but just try it! It might enlighten you.