My plan includes the following:
- Win a billion dollars
- Quit my job and travel for the rest of my life
- Never make mistakes
- Eat what I want and not gain weight
- Have my house clean itself, laundry wash itself and car clean itself
- Be a rockstar and sell platinum records
- Live happily ever after
My real plan is to show you what ideal and perfectionism is. To show you what unrealistic looks like. We INFPs tend to romanticize everything. We tend to say what we want and claim it’s what we need. We keep it to ourselves so that no one harms our dreams. Then we start to believe that making those dreams happen is actually possible.
One day we decide to take steps toward our dreams. We start buying lottery tickets or start a band. And years later, after we’ve invested tons of money and time, we feel disenchanted because we still aren’t rich, famous or anything we planned to be.
What I want all of us to realize, especially those of us who are young, is that ideal is usually unrealistic and even impossible. The pursuit of the impossible will drive us crazy and lead to serious disappointment and depression. We’ll feel as though we belong on another planet.
So instead of seeking the impossible, start bouncing your ideas against someone who lives in reality and start getting an idea of what you actually CAN do. Don’t let your dreams die, but let them mature into realistic ideas. By chasing realistic dreams, you’ll actually accomplish them. And when you do, you’ll be an INFP who loves life instead of one who complains that you never get anything you want.