Who’s in charge of your future?

The future is such a beautifully fluid place full of possibility for anything to happen.

And yet, how many people actually own it?

We can harness our power and create whatever future we want. OR, we can let life happen to us and end up where we end up. There are behaviors that will move us in one direction and behaviors that will move us in a very different direction in life.

Oftentimes, we are in that default path of life, the default direction and will end up in a fairly predictable place. If we want to change where we end up and how our lives look, we have to change our behaviors.

But to change the course of our lives we actually have to know where we’re currently heading and where we want to head.

And there’s nothing wrong with having a default future, as long as you decide that’s what you want. “No effort, where I end up, I end up. That’s my decision.” Cool, go for it.

But for the rest of us, we want some say in what happens in our lives.

There’s nothing worse or more disempowering for me than letting life choose where you’re headed. It’s the ultimate in victim mentality. It’s like laying in a river and waiting to see where you end up. When you come to a fork in the river, you lay there, waiting to see what the river chooses for you. Go down a waterfall? “The river chose this! I blame the river! Damn you river! AHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhh!”

The alternative is deciding and taking responsibility for the direction you go.

True power over your life comes from making powerful decisions on the direction you want to take and then heading toward it.

Sometimes you make the wrong turn and you have to try to back track. But at least YOU were in charge. You took control over your life and situation and made a decision instead of letting life tell you when you’ll get a raise or get promoted or have time for the things you care about.

This is a life of strength where you speak up and work with the people, time, money and resources in your life to get what you need and what you want.

It’s pretty simple to make looking at a different path actionable.

I personally love easel pads. I go crazy thinking about what I want my life to look like and drawing out my ideas; which direction I want to be going, where I’m at today, etc. I’ve got tons of huge papers all over my walls while I’m doing this. It’s so much fun and I generate so much excitement for what I want to create.

Here are some starter questions to ask yourself:

Where are you?

Where do you need to be?

What are the milestones I need to hit in order to get to the future I decided.

What areas of my life do I want to change?

Take responsibility for all of it and don’t blame or judge. Love yourself for where you’re at and love yourself for deciding to change the direction.

As an INFP, it will be SO much fun for your imagination to take you anywhere in this world and be ok with not knowing how to get there.

Get out of your head. Do this. Play. Have fun. Daydream, baby!!!

What future do you want to create? What’s your default future if you do nothing? I want to know.

Author: Invincible INFP

Hi, I'm Mike!

I'm a life coach, a full-time employee, a single Dad and a writer.

I'm here to try to help you navigate the waters of career happiness so you can enjoy your life.

One thought on “Who’s in charge of your future?”

  1. Just like how the birds go off in the morning with empty stomachs and come back in the evening with their sustenance, so too does God provide for us when we are feeling deprived.

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